10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome
Whether you just got out of a relationship or you’ve been single for a while, at some point being single can feel lonely or miserable. Everyone always thinks it’s so much better being in a relationship and that the grass really is greener on the other side. There are so many amazing reasons for being single that people don’t acknowledge, so here are 10 reasons being single is awesome.
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: Time to Work on You
When were single (especially in early recovery) it gives us time to really work on ourselves. This is the time to figure out who you are and love yourself. When you’re in a relationship, it is all about working on ‘us’ and now you can just focus on you!
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: You Can Finally Enjoy Your Own Company
I don’t know about you, but when I was in active addiction I couldn’t stand to be alone with myself or not drunk or high because I was so unhappy being me. Now that we are sober, it is nice to finally be able to enjoy our alone time by ourselves and not feel like you can’t be alone with your own thoughts.
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: More Time to Hang Out with Friends & Family
When you get into a relationship no matter how much you don’t want things to change between you and your friends, it does. When you’re single you can spend as much time with your friends and family as you want. No need to feel guilty because you don’t have time for them, you can see them all the time!
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: You Have Your Own Money
When you’re single, you have your own money and aren’t financially tied to anyone. This can be stressful at times but it is so nice when you have extra money and you don’t have to ask someone ‘permission’ to spend it on clothes and shoes. As long as you are financially doing alright, having your own money is a big perk of being single.
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: You Can Be Selfish
When you’re in a relationship, so much of what you do is about ‘we’ and ‘us’ and when you’re single you can be as selfish as you want. You are in a relationship with yourself right now and should make sure to treat and take care of yourself!
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: Time to Start a New Hobby
Now you have time to go and start a new hobby, possibly take a cooking class, go to yoga, get a gym membership, try being artsy and all kinds of other activities. It is the time to explore your interests and find hobbies that you really enjoy.
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: You Can Do Whatever You Want; Whenever You Want!
There is no need to check in with your boyfriend or girlfriend; no need to tell anyone you are going to be home late or let them know where you are. You have freedom! You can do whatever you want and you can do it whenever you want to!
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: More Room to Grow
Being single gives you much more room to grow as a person. When you’re in a relationship it is all about growing in the relationship and with each other. When you are single you get to build the life you want and discover the person you really want to be.
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: Your Decisions Are Solely Based on YOU
Instead of making decisions based on how it will affect him and the relationship, your decisions are only based on how and if it will benefit and be good for you. You can figure out what works for you without having to think about if your boyfriend or girlfriend will approve.
10 Reasons Being Single is Awesome: More Time to Focus on Your Program & Help Others
When you are in a relationship, sometimes you don’t have as much time to focus on you and your program. Of course you make time but when you’re single you have all the time in the world to work on your program and help others. This can be one of the most rewarding parts of being a single sober woman; I love being able to have all the time in the world for my sponsor and my sponsees and any meeting I want to attend! Eventually you will find that special someone and it will be perfect and work out exactly how it is supposed to but until then, enjoy being single! If you or a loved one is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll free 1-888-672-4435.
Sources:
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/ivy-n-allen/ten-things-appreciate-about-being-single
http://www.refinery29.com/2013/06/48926/being-single#slide-1