In The Wake Of Someones Alcoholism

You didn’t ask for this, living a life of daily survival and emotional uncertainty.  When you got married, you thought you were getting a partner for life to go with you through thick and thin.  You thought you would have a loving competent parent to raise your kids with you.  Instead, you have what amounts to another child in your home.  This isn’t what you signed up for.

Losing A Spouse Gaining A Child

Having a spouse with alcoholism in your home is much like raising an out-of-control child.  The worst part is that you have no other parent partner to work with.  That’s who your spouse was supposed to be.  Instead, you wonder and worry as the hands of the clock circle around and around.

The hours creep by, and still they aren’t home. When they do come home raging drunk, will they be angry or humorous?  What will they want you to do for them when they come home?  Make a sandwich, talk for hours, have sex?  Or your worst nightmare, you’ll get a phone call that they are in jail or in a car accident from driving drunk.

Alcoholism A Rough Ride For Everyone

All you can hope for is that they pass out quickly.  It’s almost a nightly thing now, no semblance of a peaceful home life anymore with your spouse.  They spend hours out drinking their day away, you stay at home lonely and stressed.

Being in the wake of someone else’s alcoholism is a rough ride indeed.  There may be some painful predictability about, and some true unknowns.  What are they capable of?  What will make them stop drinking so much?  What kind of horrible catastrophe am I going to face with them because of their drinking?  How will that affect our family?

Time For Alcohol Rehab Discussion

You may know it’s time for them to go to alcohol rehab, you may have even talked to them about it.  If you have been met with rejection and insults, then you may hesitate to do it very often.  Maybe it’s time for you to make a stand, draw a firm line in the sand.  Maybe it’s time for you to make a plan for you and your children if your spouse continues to refuse alcohol treatment.  Can you imagine living this way much longer?

If they show no signs of slowing down, you and your children are at risk.  You will need information, some supportive people around you, and a lot of courage.  Call your local alcohol rehab center today to find out more about what is available for your spouse.  Ask how they might be able to help you talk to your spouse if you aren’t sure.  This may be the time you got your spouse some help and your family out of the way.

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